By Wilma Bedford
Positive people have certain character traits. They are ready for new experiences and not afraid of change. They take responsibility, reach out to help others, and are eager to see others succeed. Negative people blame others for their failure, think of personal gain, hope to see others fail and abhor criticism.
Maintaining a positive attitude in a negative environment can leave you sapped of all energy.
To keep negativity at bay, start with a gratitude journal. On waking, enumerate five things for which you are grateful and as the day progresses be mindful of other blessings bestowed upon you. Gratitude can significantly increase your happiness and protect you from stress, negativity and depression. Live with gratitude and express your gratitude openly.
Establish positive thought patterns and repeat them to yourself every day. Repeating the affirmations not only makes you more positive and optimistic but reinforces a positive thought habit. Use positive words to describe yourself and your life. Think of all your good characteristics and physical attributes. Hold a motivational session with yourself: “My life is trouble-free, my problems are not unsurmountable. I am a very lucky person. I am confident and true to myself”. How you talk is how your life will be.
Don’t get dragged into other people’s complaints. By all means lend an ear and a helping hand but set clear boundaries and know when to walk away from negative people. Complaining leads to lower moods and negative emotions as well as a decreased life satisfaction.
Have a solution ready when pointing out a problem and offer ways to make things better.
If you want to be fit you hang out at the gym; if you want to be positive, hang out with happy positive people, the same principal applies. Seek them out at the gym or in the workplace or at social clubs.
Think about someone else’s happiness. Show appreciation for others, verbally express your appreciation and give a compliment and make someone smile. A smile can turn your day and someone else’s day around. Smiling releases serotonin – a neurotransmitter that produces the feeling of happiness, well-being and reduces stress. If you find it hard to smile due to circumstances, then visualise your happiest moment. Our thoughts and feelings influence our behaviour.
Recharge your batteries. Do things you love and enjoy. For your physical and mental well-being, it is vital to take a few minutes every day to recharge your batteries. Do things you enjoy doing, ditch the routine and refocus.
Exercise is the natural feel good drug; follow a regular exercise plan.
Focus on the present, live in the moment, it is important to remember the past but it is harmful to dwell on or obsess over it.
Melli Obrien. The Four Keys to Overcoming Negative Thinking for Good.
10 Simple Habits to Grow A Positive Attitude
Wycklendt, Megan. Inner Peace. Aug 4 2014 Fulfilment Daily. http://www.fulfillmentdaily.com